BREAKING THE ICE – FIRST DATES

BREAKING THE ICE – FIRST DATES

You’re on your first date, and you’re frantically searching for things to say. Yes, it isn’t easy --- should I be natural, and say whatever I feel like? Or should I plan it all out, and go with a prepared speech? Both options have their dangers. The danger of saying whatever comes to your mind is that you may talk too much (it’s your first date, remember) or say the wrong things. On the other hand, if you go prepared with what to say, you may sound boring and unnatural. The trick therefore is to maintain a balance.

• Prepare yourself with some common conversation boosters (what do you study, what’s your family like, where were you born etc). But try to be natural when answering questions.
• That doesn’t mean you blurt out whatever comes to your mind.
• Stay calm, take your time, and answer.
• If you feel the conversation isn’t getting anywhere, relax. It’s only your first date. If you feel you want to know more about this girl, fix up a second date by the end of the evening. Both of you will be more comfortable by then.