The Apologetic Flake

Love Couple

Love Couple

I have seen this play out several times, and I have a good friend who is just masterful at this and who brought it into sharp focus. She's an attractive girl and she works on a trading desk, so she's legitimately busy and has painfully early mornings.

From time to time, she just doesn't feel like going on the date she has scheduled. The guy isn't that interesting to her, or another social event popped up, whatever... So she'll flake at the last minute, but she'll offer her profuse apologies.

Sometimes these are interlaced with statements meant to inspire sympathy ("I slept like 2 hours last night, I'm barely functioning, I hate my job"), but in almost all cases, she attempts to lock the guy into rescheduling right there on the phone by telling him how excited she is to see him and how "seriously," she can't wait to hang out because they're going to have such a good time.

Don't stare, don't stalk

Love Couple

Love Couple

If you see a woman you want to make the first contact with then don't stare and don't follow her 

around corners. Eye contact is very good and important as long as you don't behave as a pervert staring at her body only. Don't scare the girls off by being a creepy guy watching them from behind a corner!

Oh, and by the way: Telling a girl on a first date "I love you" or "You are my dream girl" is so ridiculous that you can easily be interpreted as potential prospective stalker.

Conflict in Senior Relationships

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Dating

Viewing conflict in senior relationships, or any relationships, as an opportunity for growth can go against instinctive responses. When conflict arises, we often feel attacked. Our fight or flight response may be triggered. We think we must choose between passivity or defense. However, if you don't personalize the problem (i.e. make it about you) then this level of reaction becomes unneeded. Instead, you can logically look at the situation, open to the other person's input, and decide together what can be done to help make things better.

The quickest way to deal with conflict is to avoid blame or judgment. Simply explain your experience to your partner. Your goal is to share your emotions and worries, not to decide who is bad. Challenge yourself to not view your partner's behavior as “wrong.” While it may be displeasing to you, this does not make one person right and the other one wrong. Furthermore, he/she is not responsible for your reaction. Your feelings are important and should be communicated in this way so your partner can hear you.

Senior Personals

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Dating

Online senior dating services provide the opportunity for clients to write and review senior personals. Some use the sites for making friendships and others are looking for romantic love. Senior dating services maintain databases of all their members' information. You can initiate a search and the computer quickly looks to find you the kind of person you are looking for. Dating web sites are generally reasonably priced and are convenient to use. When you chose a site that specializes in matching members who are 50 years of age and older, it becomes even easier to find a likely match.

Using senior personals can be a lot of fun. Clearly state who you are and what you're looking for. This serves to attract the kind of people you want to meet, increasing the chances of a connection and a successful date.

Don't let discomfort of this unknown world intimidate you. There are several sites for senior singles that are simple to use. With a little practice you will be navigating around your chosen site(s) with ease.